How to stop self-sabotage

Self-sabotage happens in all sorts of seemingly mysterious ways. Ever have a moment where you realise that the very thing you were going to focus on has somehow drifted to the dark recesses of your mind? That’s self-sabotage.

I consider myself pretty self-aware but recently I caught myself thinking, I just don’t like exercise. And as I caught the thought (after seeing a couple of joggers), I wondered how long I had been telling myself that. Based on my lack […]

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Three Ways to Deal With Feeling Vulnerable

When are you most likely to feel vulnerable? To feel scared of being revealed or anxious that others will see you as flawed?
Labelled early on as ‘too sensitive,’ I learned to hide my feelings out of fear that I would be further criticised. I buried them deep so that on the surface I was pleasant and easy to get along with. Underneath I was a roiling mess.
It wasn’t so much that I wanted to be liked. It more that […]

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Do this one thing to improve your relationship.

A relationship will always experience ups and downs.
The longer the relationship, the more likely it is that you’ll hit more than a few speed bumps along the way. Suddenly the other person’s laughter grates on your nerves, or you seem to see their stuff being left all over the place.
The problem is, once you get tipped over to being irritated by one thing, the more it seems you notice all of the other things s/he is doing. Never helping […]

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Hitting a wall: and what to do about it

I knew I was going to hit the wall. 
The momentum was too much–missing a 12 inch drop meant I was already leaning forward. My body simply followed the path it had been propelled down.
The wall and I met with a crash. Blood flowed freely.
There aren’t many things that take me down psychologically, but smashing face-first into a solidly built stone wall threatened to. It wounded my pride. Yes, there was the reality of a concussion, a badly bruised knee, two […]

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What’s love got to do with it?

You have to let people love the people you love.
It was a hot day that first day of school. Of course, we lived in Texas so August automatically means hot!
I walked my two kids to school, one on either side of me, one small hand clasped in mine. China was entering the second grade and she was super excited to go back to the library. She loved books like crazy! Austin was over-the-moon excited because finally he would be […]

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Don’t Call It Luck!

I’m frequently told how lucky I am to live in France.
I hate being told that.
Don’t get me wrong, I love living in France. LOVE it.
What I hate is the idea that ‘luck’ had anything to do with it.
When I was in high school I worked three jobs so that I could save enough money to attend college in Paris. I made it to France back then not by luck but by wanting to go to Paris so badly that […]

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Change your thinking, even if you think you can’t

What do you do when you first wake up? If you’re like millions of other people, you don’t think, you roll over and grab your phone. Scroll through emails, texts, and maybe a quick check of Facebook.
And when you do?
Your stress level immediately goes up. Your brain lights up with all of the things needing your attention, things you forgot, and you think about the things that have to be done NOW. And you haven’t even gotten out of […]

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Ways a Lack of Confidence Affects You

How many things have you not done due to a lack of confidence?
What have you lost because of your self-doubt?
*Missed out on a raise because you were too afraid to ask?
*Let an opportunity go by because you feared taking a risk?

*Missed out on something fun?
Most people have had experiences with a lack of confidence: they remember the sweaty hands, the pit in their stomach, the wish to disappear, the fear that if they tried, they might fail.
When I […]

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Finding Confidence

How many things have you not done due to a lack of confidence?
What have you lost because of your self-doubt?
Have you:
Missed out on a raise because you were too afraid to ask?
Let an opportunity go by because you feared taking a risk?
Missed out on something fun?
Most people have had experiences with a lack of confidence: they remember the sweaty hands, the pit in their stomach, the wish to disappear, the fear that if they tried, they might fail.
When I […]

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Why is Your Business a Failure?

If you’ve tried something new and experienced failure, it could be because you started at the wrong place.
You’ve put your heart and soul, and maybe all of your savings into this. And it’s on life-support. What went wrong?
Approaching a new venture can be scary, but it doesn’t have to be. Doing something new stirs up fears in all of us. Some of us are more prone to listen to those fears than others. When you pay a lot of […]

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