Don’t Call It Luck!appx
I’m frequently told how lucky I am to live in France.
I hate being told that.
Don’t get me wrong, I love living in France. LOVE it.
What I hate is the idea that ‘luck’ had anything to do with it.
When I was in high school I worked three jobs so that I could save enough money to attend college in Paris. I made it to France back then not by luck but by wanting to go to Paris so badly that nothing else mattered. I missed social events, missed a lot of sleep, but Paris was always right there in front of me: I had a goal.
I achieved my goal but it wasn’t through luck. It was through hard work, planning, being willing to sacrifice, and staying the course.
What’s luck? “Success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.” (Webster’s)
So maybe you can see why being told I’m lucky annoys me. Winning the lottery? That’s lucky.
Moving to France? That was about determination and a willingness to give up things in the immediate moment to work towards a future goal.
Have you had experiences like this? Times when you have felt your hard work was overlooked and minimized to ‘luck’?
We all want our hard work to be acknowledged. And, if others aren’t, it’s even more important that we ourselves are acknowledging it. This is why I always encourage clients to slow down and celebrate their achievements big and small.
You see, if you’re like most of us, you wake up primed to go: check in with your phone before you’re out of bed, focused on what needs to be done, going going going throughout your day, collapse at the end of the day still worried about what didn’t get done… And few of you stop to cheer getting a report done, a project moved along, a contact made. It’s all about what didn’t get done and what still needs to be done.
If someone said you were ‘lucky’ because you made it through the day? You’d probably get angry, right?
So take a moment at the end of each day to mentally note what got done. It doesn’t matter if it had to be done, if you got it done, give yourself credit. It feels good and it makes life easier overall.